They say that 1 in 4 women have experienced baby loss at some stage. Most of us know at least one of those 1 in 4 women. My husband's best man lost their first born two weeks before our wedding. I remember his wife (who I barely knew) saying how glad they were to have a reason to get out and have fun. I remember watching her in awe as she was able to go on with life.
I was already a mother at that stage and could just not comprehend how it would be possible to on with life after the loss of a child. Actually even when I was 12 and my Aunt lost her nearly 18 year old daughter I wondered how life was meant to go on after such a tragic loss. Apparently it just has to.
Sadly the blogosphere seems to be like a collection pool of women suffering, coping and living with the loss of an infant or child. I say sadly in that it is heartbreaking what some have been through I think it is awesome that they share their stories. I can only imagine that knowing someone else has experienced something similar is something of a comfort.
So today October 15th, at 7 pm parents around the globe will light a candle in remembrance of their child.
Trish over at My Little Drummer Boys (who inspired me to write this post when I read this) said that
It is my sincere wish that those touched by the loss of a baby are well supported, able to process their loss and hopeful for the future... (not my words but heartfelt wish)I would like to echo that wish and add
To all out there who have suffered,
and been touched by such loss
I send out an endless supply
of love filled fairy wishes and butterfly kisses.
I know not of your grief and have not felt such pain
and I wish that no one did, ever again
But alas that will not be the case.
The Lord for some reason, and I don't know why,
will always be needing these precious souls by his side
May as each day pass, for those that hurt most
I pray for it to hurt just a little bit less.