Friday, January 4

2013 The Year of ?

Everywhere I turn at the moment I seem to see people who are busily sharing how awesome they intend to be for the new year. There are all kinds of whiz bang promises and hopes flying all around. From eating no chocolate, to exercise more, to be kinder to oneself and others around, and everything in between.

It seems there is no denying that with the New Year comes resolution time.

Naturally this is a bandwagon that I tend to jump on as well. Especially in recent years. As a blogger I almost have an obligation to publicly share what I will successfully not do this year.

Back in 2011 I dubbed it the year of trying. This saw me try new things that caused me to try and step outside my comfort zone. I tried making new friends and being more social. I tried writing more and I when I thought about it, I tried to be the best person I could be. All very admirable I know but if I am honest I am not sure I tried as hard as I could. I rarely seem to, which was kinda why I thought I should dedicate a whole year to it.

Turns out last year was the year to make it matter. I say turns out because on Wednesday when I wrote about this time last year I was unable to find anything that remotely resembled my resolutions for the coming year. Which I found more than a bit strange.

As much as I may fail with the whole resolution commitment thing, I do generally give it at least some thought each year. I was sure that I had written somewhere in the new year of 2012 what wonderful things I envisioned for the year ahead. Only I couldn't seem to find it. The best I could come up with was a reflection on the discoveries of 2011.

Scratching my head I decided there was no point going over it any further as I still had this year to figure out.

Which naturally I still haven't done.

This post was supposed to help me nut out some fine resolutions, ones that I had little to no chance to fail at. I just don't see the sense in setting myself up for failure. I am quite good at not getting things done as it is, without adding any extras in.

In the process of trying to spit this post though all I have done is furrow my brow as my fingers struggle to type anything that seems to actually make sense.

I want something that I can take with me the whole year through.
Something that I won't lose interest in.
Something that doesn't need to much of a commitment.

In case you hadn't already picked up on it I am not the commitment type. To anything. Except for Mr Awesome, the kids and a couple of nasty habits I would not rather admit to publicly just yet. Actually speaking of Mr Awesome and commitment. The Australia day weekend will mark ten years since we first went on that magical date which saw us cement our undying love for each other.

Just thinking about it makes my heart swell and beat a little faster. Even after an entire decade of being in each others arms I can believe it is all real. Every day I am thankful for being blessed with his love and the ability to love him back. Even in the deepest darkness I can still see his light and know that all will be alright.

But I digress. Back to the year 2013.

Back to trying to find a theme to make matter for 2013?

At this stage all I have got is this

 The Happiness Jar.

Each night we all write out what was the happiest part of our day and pop it in the jar. I am sure you have seen plenty of others pledging to do the same. Such a brilliant yet simple idea.

Rather than keep it all to myself it is something I have shared with the whole family. I had wanted us to have our own jars but everyone else thought it best if we just share. Which is good really because the five jars did take up a bit of room which our little shoebox of a home just doesn't have.

So it has been a truly beautiful experience. I love the way that Miss Six has embraced it so warmly and delights in writing it out herself. Though she has put her own twist on it and wants it to be about what she wants to remember most from each day. Which is kind of nice as well.

What are you goals, hopes and plans for 2013?

Do you actually have any or are you like me 
and just winging it for now?

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  1. I love the idea of the happiness jar!!

    1. Thanks Ann, I really hope we see it out the whole year through

  2. Well, I think that writing and popping in the happiness jar at the end of every day IS a resolution, and it's a good one! It's making you grateful for each day, or at least a part of it.
    When it comes to the rest, just keep winging it! If it happens, it happens! :)

    1. Yep I am a queen of winging it Tracey, has worked out well for me so far. I guess when you put it like that the happiness jar is a bit of a resolution, go me!

  3. No resoltiotions or goals as yet. I'm going to find my words for the year and nearly have those but I'm still thinking.
    Love the happiness jar. We always say something were thankful for at dinner time.

    1. Yes I remember you vlogging about it once. I tried the dinner time thing a while back but it never seemed to stick. Meal times are so hectic at times here

  4. That is such a cool idea, the happiness jar!

    I am not good on resolution either and feel the same way you do, why add something else to the list of things I fail at? But I have decided that this year I want to try and be more patient. Here's hoping it works!

    1. Yes I remember reading your post on that and thinking that there were certainly quite a few areas that could do with me developing more patients. Best of luck to you I am sure you will find it

  5. Ten years, wow. Congrats. Love the Happiness jar idea. As for me, I have given it some thought, though I am pretty much still winging it.

    1. Thanks Ang, I always wish for it to be more. I really can't explain just how much I love him. Good luck with the winging it, I think it does have quite a few merit points

  6. I love the happiness jar. It's a lovely idea and will def be something nice to look back on.

    I have some health and fitness goals for the year, some blogging goals and a family goal. I think new year is a great time to reflect and the symbolism of a fresh start really works for me.

    Lots of love xx

    1. I have loved reading what everyone else has written as well. In fact so much so that that was one of my happys. I do have some health and fitness stuff that I want to work on as well but that is a continuation on from what I started last year so not really a new years resolution.

  7. I love that idea!
    We generally verbally say a little something that we have enjoyed about the day when we are tucking Toddler C in but it would be so nice to have all those memories saved!

    1. Yes I love the idea of being able to actually look back on it all. We have tried it at different times of the day as well but it is always haphazard. Hopefully this becomes a part of everyday

  8. The happiness jar is a great idea Rhianna - so much more practical and positive and real than making empty resolutions. I've already set some blogging goals for the year but I'm still trying to work out the personal ones. I better have them ready for Monday though, considering that's what I'm supposed to be confessing to next week!

  9. I hope you don't mind but I'm planning on doing a similar jar - mixing it up between gratitude, fun things and goals and dreams. But mine prob will be a week or so late starting - like most of my 'projects' - Thanks for sharing Rhianna!
    And coming up to a decade of true love, congrats :)

  10. I love this jar idea...what a lovely thing to do :)
    Becc via #FYBF


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