Tuesday, March 6

The Death of a Meme

It is with great regret that I write that making it matter has passed away.  Not passed on, as I am not about to announce the next proud owner.  Instead it has just passed away as a sad little meme that never really took off.

That's not to say I won't still be finding things to make matter in my life and sharing them here, I just won't be harping on about every Monday. Not that I have been lately anyway but now there will be no self inflicted pressure to get something out just incase someone was going to join in.  Only to spend the week disappointed when that doesn't happen.

The most ridiculous part about the whole waiting for others to join in is that I was only ever doing it because of benefits I was gaining in my own life.  At the end of the day it shouldn't  matter whether anyone else shared their story or not because as long as I was moving forward little else really mattered.  I got too busy caught up thinking about all the cool blogs that host memes and wanting to be like them.  Rather than just concentrating on being the best me I can be.

So where to now?

To tell you the truth I am not really sure. Part of me feels a bit overwhelmed by much of life.  Though it is not as dire as that sentence sounds.  There is just souch I want to do, coupled with all that I need to do that fimding the best place to start can be easier said than done.

All in all I  am in a pretty good place.  Things are moving forward albeit slower than I would prefer but forward is still forward.  They say that slow and steady wins the race...
For the first time in I don't know how long I don't feel like the housework is an unachievable mountain I'll never climb. Instead it is more like a bump in the road that I know I can now get through.  After years of disorganisation and chaos I'm finally learning that establishing loose routines and regular habits can be a great benefit to everyone. It turns out that perhaps life does need some sort of loose structure to it to help you get the most out of it.

And on that note all I have left to say is that it is Tuesday so I am linking up with

Didn't I tell you all the cool blogs hosted great memes?  Head on over (by clicking the button) and check out all the other great posts today

-fairy wishes and butterfly kisses

25 comments:

  1. I am sorry to see your meme go but think you should continue posting them as you feel the desire. The days I caught your "making it matter" posts since I discovered your blog i enjoyed them and honestly did not realise that others did not join in - i read them first thing and assumed the linkers came later in the day. Keep "moving forward" and keep sharing your story! xx

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    1. Thanks Deb for your kind words. I certainly will keep moving forward, especially now I know how good that feels. And as for sharing my story, I was born to be a writer, my story will always be shared :) I am pretty certain for that Making it Matter will make a return to the blog in the future just in a slightly different way.

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  2. Hi Rhi I know you know this already, but just because you don't host a meme linky party, it doesn't mean your blog isn't "cool" or you aren't a great blogger. I appreciate you coming by to read my posts sometimes, and being supportive. To me, that's pretty awesome :)

    Glad this meme did help you to find things that matter to you...

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

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    1. Thanks Ai, and congrats on being Blogger of the Mo, super exciting. I know that it actually takes more than meme hosting to be cool or great, whenever I say all the cool blogs have this or that it is usually a little tongue in cheek

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  3. I feel so bad Rhi and I'm so sorry for just 'dropping off' Life has turned into a constantly spinning world of chaos since I went back to work and I barely get time to read FB anymore, let alone my fav blogs and to try and even get a second to think about actually posting something on my own... maybe one day down the track...?
    Don't stop making it matter.... even though I don't post about it, I still use your inspiration to keep making it matter in my own house. As sad and horrible as this sounds, it is nice to know that there are other people out there in exactly the same situation and place that I am.. it kind of helps me get up each morning and keep on facing it!
    Sending lots of hugs xx

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    1. It's all good Kristy I totally understand. I couldn't even begin to imagine how I would cope returning to the workforce.
      I will certainly keep making things matter and who knows I may even post about it more often. I do think that the concept is a great one and the comments here have confirmed it for me. I think it needs a bit of shaping and fine tuning.
      I totally get what you mean about finding comfort knowing others share the same struggles.
      Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses lovely x

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  4. Sorry to hear about the meme. I think anyone who starts one is much braver than I! You are obviously doing a great job "making it matter" in your own life, and that matters way more than having a "cool" meme on your blog.

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  5. I'm actually really sorry to hear you have retired your meme! I really did enjoy participating...I couldn't really understand why other's didn't join as well. I found that it really helped me to focus on getting something important done each week. I was going to link up last week too, but I couldn't find yours on Monday. I tried to help, by tweeting etc..but I'm only a very small, new fish in this big pond and am finding it a little tough myself to get readers....let alone anyone actually linking up to my meme....(I hope I didn't unintentionally hinder your meme either by linking and trying to promote it) so don't worry, you're not the only one with no linkers ;)I know how disheartening it can be....

    Thanks so much for hosting it though! I owe you one because one of the posts I wrote for making it matter is my most read post!

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    1. Nicole, I can not begin to explain how much I appreciated your support it was amazing. I too am just a small fish.

      Yes I found it a great way to gain focus as well and truth be told I will probably still end up writing about it weekly I was just struggling with oh crap it's Monday what will I write and then get all blocked because I couldn't think of anything immediately. There are actually a few other bloggy changes I am trying to implement so it is all a bit timely for me really.

      I am so sorry it wasn't there last week, I think I did it on Tues, it was a terrible effort anyway. Which is why when I couldn't get one out last week I thought it best just to put it to bed for a bit and see what happens next. This way I can focus on the positive rather than wondering if anyone was joining in.

      As for your link, I have a post floating round in my head, hopefully it comes out soon. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses

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  6. I'm sorry to hear about your meme. Being new to the blogosphere, I'm beginning to get a sense of how things work... Just! I'm sorry I never got the chance to link up, and I think it's amazing you had the guts and creativity to start one in the first place.
    I really enjoy your blog and look forward to reading more x

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    1. Thanks Ms Mandie xx Welcome to the blogospehere as well, I am sure you will just love it :D

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  7. oh honey! life does get in the way.. Im sorry you have stopped your meme.. I feel each week I don't get something important done due to everything else getting in the way!! I hope that doesn't stop you starting another linky! Maybe we could think of something together!!

    FW & BK to you xxx

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    1. That sounds like a lovely idea. It always make me smile so much when someone sends me back fw & bk thank you xx

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  8. Aww, no! I thought this was such a great meme, though, I only learned of it recently. I know how you feel, I started one last year about 'Me' time, trying to encourage myself and other mothers to share what they were doing to look after themselves and it bombed spectacularly.
    Hugs, it's disappointing to see something you were excited about and put so much into end x

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    1. Oh thanks Becky, sorry to hear about your meme as well, that sounds like a great idea, though what is this me time you speak of? ;p

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  9. Your posts are always inspiring and engaging - and that's what we're here to read, enjoy and learn from. Just keep being you. The rest will follow. I look forward to seeing where the journey takes you. :)

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    1. Misha thanks for your kind words. I certainly will just keep plodding along, one post at a time :)

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  10. The meme thing is hard, and it is disappointing when people don't join. I love your attitude though and the fact that you are going to make things matter just for you, and not for anyone else. That's what's really important.

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    1. Yep that's right Jess! Thanks for stopping by

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  11. As long as you keep writing I will be happy. Don't worry about what others are or aren't doing.

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  12. I hope you keep writing Rhi.
    I enjoy your variety of posts.
    You certainly are a well rounded commenter and that is far more of a worthy trait.

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    1. Thanks Trish that really means a lot xx

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Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to you, thanks for stopping by, it really means a lot, you taking the time so say hi. I try as much as I can to write a reply but if for some chance I don't get to it please know that I always read them.